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Why do speakers speak? Since the
goal of speaking is to
change lives, speaking is the
ultimate tool for church growth. But how can you
be effective in communication through speaking? Listed
below are eight questions to ask about
- Who will I
to? Asking questions like, "What are
their needs?", "What are their hurts?", and,
"What are their interests?", will help us focus
on where the people are. Why ask? Because
although there are three things that always get
can only consistently keep people's attention by
focusing on what people value.
- Things that threaten us.
- Things that are unusual.
- Things that we
- What does the bible say
about their needs?
Since the Bible is
the Book of Life, is will have the answer to
peoples needs! The speaker's task is
to show the Bible to be relevant for today's
- What is the most practical
way to say it? Application is the central
task in speaking.
So, speaking must be
practical enough for people to know what to
How to make speaking
Exhortation without explanation leads to
frustration. Too often people respond to a
message with the expression, "Yes, but how?" In
other words, I agree with what you're saying,
but how do I do it?
- Always aim for action.
- Tell the people why.
- Show them how.
- What is the most positive
way to say it?
Jesus never tried to
convert anyone with anger. Although the
Scriptures clearly warn of judgment,
negative speaking only
produces negative people. Promote the positive
alternatives to sin and speak
- What is the most encouraging
way to say it?
Everyone has three
- To have their faith reinforced,
- To have their hope renewed,
- To have their love
The key to encouraging people is
don't just tell it like it is, but also tell it
like it could be.
- What is the simplest way to
Jesus taught profound truth in
simple ways. Since a person forgets 90 to 95% of
what they hear in seventy-two hours, the sermon
needs to be definable in a single thought.
How do you simplify the
- Condense the message into a
- Avoid using religious terms.
- Keep your outline simple.
- Make your application fit.
- Never make a point without a
- What is the most personal
way to say it?
People today are
skeptical and resistant to sales pitches, so the
message must be made personal - "He's speaking to me!"
How do you speak
- Honestly share your struggles.
- Honestly share your progress.
- Share what you are learning.
- What is the most interesting
way to say it?
To the unchurched,
dull speaking is
unforgivable. Vary your delivery! Jesus told
stories about people and He also used humor.
Humor relaxes people, makes painful medicine
easier to accept and creates positive
In summary, good
effective speaking is
not just an accident. It should be thought
through. Finally, the most effective key
is simply LOVE
Taken from "Lincoln on Leadership", by
Donald T. Phillips, Warner Books
It is important that the people know you
come among them without fear.
Remember, human action can be modified to
some extent, but human nature cannot be changed.
When you extinguish hope, you create
You must be consistently fair and decent, in
both the business and the personal side of life.
Remember: Your organization will take on the
personality of its top leader.
Do the very best you know how - the very
best you can - and keep doing it until the end.
Avoid major conflict in the form of quarrels
and arguments . you simply don't have time for
Make consistency one of the main cogs in the
machinery of your organization.
Try not to feel insecure or threatened by
When the occasion is piled high with
difficulty, rise with it. Think anew and act
Remember that the best leaders never stop
Don't lose confidence in your people when
Loyalty is more often won through private
conversation than in any other way.
Don't forget that humor is a major component
of your ability to persuade people.
When effecting renewal, call on the past,
relate it to the present, and then use them both
to provide a link to the future.
Everywhere you go, at every conceivable
opportunity, reaffirm, reassert and remind
everyone of the basic principles upon which your
organization was founded.
Always let your subordinates know that the
honor will be all theirs if they succeed and the
blame will be all yours if they fail.
|Spotting a New
10 Traits to identify a promising
- Leadership in the past. The best
predictor of the future is the past.
- The capacity to create or catch vision.
When I talk to people about the future, I want
their eyes to light up. I want them to ask the
- A constructive spirit of discontent.
Some people would call this criticism, but
there's a big difference in being constructively
discontent and being critical. The unscratchable
itch is always in the leader.
- Practical Ideas. Not everybody with
practical ideas is a leader, of course, but
leaders seem to be able to identify which are
and which aren't.
- A willingness to take responsibility.
Leaders will bear work, for the feeling of
contributing to other people is what leadership
is all about.
- A completion factor. In the military, it
is called "completed staff work." The
half-cooked meal isn't what you want.
- Mental toughness. No one can lead
without being criticized or without facing
discouragement. I don't want a mean leader; I
don't want a tough leader.
- Peer respect. Peer respect doesn't
reveal ability, but can show character and
- Family respect. The family's feelings
toward someone reveal much about his or her
potential to lead.
- A quality that makes people listen to
them. Potential leaders have a "holding
court" quality about them. When they speak,
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...international in scope, yet one on
problems? Do you have burdens that you want
to release? Everyone knows that Christians
have a direct line to Jesus. He is there
to answer all our prayers and to comfort
sometimes our burdens get so hard that we
seek comfort and
understanding from our fellow sisters. The
Lord tells us to share our troubles with each
other. He tells us to pray for each
other. When one hurts, we all hurt.
When one rejoices, we all should
When you come to the
fellowship and you feel that you need someone to
talk to or you just need comfort, the prayer
warriors are there for you. They are there
to listen; they are there to comfort; and most
of all they are there to pray with
Whatever, you share with a prayer
warrior stays with the prayer warrior.
CONFIDENTIALITY is the most important part of
being a prayer
pray that you leave the fellowship in good
spirits and with a better relationship with the
Lord. The pray warriors are there to help
you. However, when you leave the
fellowship, we encourage you to go to your home
church and continue to share your hurts, pains
and problems with your pastor or a fellow church
member who you know you can
remember, the Christ Temple Women of Faith
Fellowship is there for you. May God Bless
in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of
prayers and requests. With this in mind be
alert and always keep on praying for all
the saints. Ephesians
you faults one to another, and pray one for
another, that ye may be healed. The
effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man
availeth much. James
with them that do rejoice, and weep with them
that weep. Romans
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